The Truth About... Pornography

The truth about pornography is that you're either interested in seeing other people have sex in all their full-frontal glory or you're not - but according to a recent survey by Yahoo, 63% of women are rather keen on the idea...

Pornography

What’s it all about?

By definition, pornography is aimed at the baser instincts rather than any aesthetic sensibilities or fine emotions. The word derives from the Greek ‘pornographos’ meaning ‘writing about prostitutes’ – and given the evidence, those heady days of toga-clad, bacchanalian excess must have been pretty steamy...

Why might I like it?

Appealing to the voyeur inside us, the images, sounds and no holds barred descriptions of pornography paint a powerfully 3D experience of sex that acts on a very physical level.

When your partner looks at you in that ‘I want you’ way that makes your cheeks flush and your stomach jump, your physical response is instinctive, spontaneous and felt in the gut. No interpretation is required. The effects are immediate. When the visual stimulus is as graphic as porn, the reactions are even more powerful.

That’s why the raw, rank, dark and dingy style of old-school pornography is still so popular. It does what is says on the tin. It’s a no-brainer.

However, the reason pornography leaves women cold is because it’s shot from the man’s point of view. But times are changing....

And that means for you too.

Watching porn with your partner is one way of finding out about each other’s fantasies. Talking about what you see is part of that all-important sexual dialogue that must exist between the lovers. Honesty, communication and trust. Don’t go to bed without them.

Couples who watch porn together find it easier to be vocal with each other during sex – both by saying what they want and making all the right noises when they get it.

The added dimension of pornographic stimulation can heighten desire and intensify orgasms too and if want to exercise the imagination too, recreating characters and scenes from a film provides a nice creative springboard.

Top tips on getting it right

1) High street shops like Ann Summers and Harmony sell videos, books and magazines in abundance, so if you want to start something between you, your partner and scenes of a sexual nature, why not begin your exploration there.

2) If you’re roaming the internet, you can expect the unexpected, but sticking with recognised brands means you’ll have a better idea of what you’ll be getting. Explicit material should be about enhancing your sex life, not putting a damper on it.

3) Porn should never be the be all and end all of sex. The minute either lover starts feeling secondary to any of the unfeasibly proportioned stars of screen or dirty magazine, the healthy balance has been lost and it’s time to focus on each other again.

4) And what better way to do this than a spot of DIY? No, not shelves. Grab your man and be the stars of your own dirty movie – lights, camera and whatever action you feel is appropriate…