So how can you feel more at ease when faced with potentially knee-knocking events such as an interview, work presentation or a date, as well as the trials and tribulations of everyday life? Look no further than our top tips for transforming the timid into tigers! Go get 'em!
1. Fake it
Even if you really feel like a quivering wreck, it's amazing how you can pull the wool over other people's eyes with simple body language. Look someone in the eye, smile, listen to what they say, talk clearly and slowly but think quickly and you'll soon have them eating out of your hand - which will make you feel more in control too.
2. Dress for the occasion
What do your clothes really say about you? Well, according to Trinny and Susannah, a hell of a lot. So dress to impress. Scary interview? Then look like you mean business by getting yourself suited and booted. Just been jilted? Then don your most flattering jeans and killer heels and watch heads turn. He doesn't know what he's missing!
3. Accentuate the positives
Don't dwell on past mistakes or things you don't like about yourself. By focusing on your glossy hair/round-the-world trip last year/recent promotion rather than your saddlebag thighs/current overdraft/terrible presentation, you'll feel miles better about yourself and all you have achieved so far.
4. Learn to accept compliments
Don't respond to a compliment with a throwaway remark. Accept it graciously and you'll seem as if you draw praise and admiration on a regular basis from all around you.
5. Believe in yourself
There's no such word as 'can't' and if you keep that in mind, you'll move mountains. For others to believe in you, you need to believe in yourself first, so take a deep breath and keep a can-do attitude at all times.