LOOK NATURAL AND FUN
It is better to look fun and accessible rather than beautiful and sexy. A variety of photographs where you look natural and as if you're having fun makes people want to meet you. If your profile shows you having a good time then they will believe that if they meet you then they will have a good time too.
TRUTH IN ADVERTISING
Recent photographs only! If they are more than a year old don't use them. One of the most common complaints is ' she may have looked like that once but she certainly doesn’t look like that now!' Pictures are an essential part of your profile so use them to full effect. These are a few good examples:
- The Full Face Close Up: Great light, no sunglasses. You’re simply smiling!
- The Full Body: Ideally standing outside.
- The Waist Up: Sitting down and smiling.
- Your Passion: Doing something you really love - snowboarding, sailing etc.
- Your Favourite Place: Local park, the beach or garden, it’s a great conversation starter.
Think of something interesting that could be a conversation starter. Even if you really do like 'walking along the beach' or 'drinking wine before a roaring fire' make sure you apply it back to you and why you enjoy it. I once put 'my favourite trip was on a bus in Morocco with a load of chickens and some local tribesmen' and met four wonderful guys who got in touch to hear more!
If you've always wanted to walk The Great Wall of China, be a bus conductor for a day or your hobby is making furniture out of plastic bottles - then say it! No one is going to be turned off by it and you never know who will be turned on.
ONE OF A KIND
Don't try to be all things to all people. We all have different moods but saying 'I am shy but boisterous' is like saying 'I am tall but also short’ it just makes your profile confusing. Think to yourself 'If I met me at a party how would I describe myself?'
Avoid negative tones and always be positive about yourself. Your profile is essentially your dating CV. You wouldn’t want a future employer to read anything negative on your CV, so why would you want a potential partner to read anything that isn’t positive?
ADOPT A WRITER’S STYLE
Many people find poor grammar and spelling a turn off, and the best of us can make mistakes, so be careful on this point. Always write in full sentences, don’t abbreviate or use text speak. Then read your profile aloud, or ask a friend to double check it. Then put it into Word and use your computer spell check for final peace of mind.
Most people want to find someone who can make them laugh, so show people you have a sense of humour. If you can make someone laugh or someone can make you laugh, it’s a great icebreaker and could get your conversation off to a great start.